The #1 Way to Connect with Your Child

“Mom, will you play with me?”  “Watch this, mom!”  “Mom, let me show you THIS!”

These are a few phrases on repeat in my house all. day. long. Our 5 year old son is passionate about life, and shares his zest for dirt and “work guys” with anyone within ear shot.

However, what he loves most is the full, undivided attention of an adult willing to watch his every move.

Honestly, I’m not always able to drop everything and rush to see him play with the same toys he showed me five minutes earlier. Truthfully, his constant need to be the center of attention sometimes grates on my already worn-thin mom nerves.

Doesn’t he know that dinner needs to be cooked and laundry needs to be done?

Connecting with your child isn't as hard as you think, mama. And this will show you just how simple it is to fit into your busy life!

But God gently reminded me of the Bible story of Mary and Martha. The two sisters had different priorities in their lives.

Instead of being a Mary, the sister who soaked in the presence of the Lord and put her relationships before work, I was a Martha. Also like Martha, I tend to put priorities and responsibilities above those I love most. (Luke 10: 38-42)

I was suddenly humbled and convicted that I was putting chores above my son, thus resulting in my own irritation. These moments of him begging for my attention are fleeting,  He won’t always want me to share in his playing and to drop everything to be with him.

Recognizing that I needed to change my attitude towards his need for attention, I began to intentionally build into his life with more quality time.  Giving myself heaps of grace, I began to allow myself to play more instead of being so focused on my to do list.

The #1 Way to Connect with Your Child

Plan time quality time each day

Parents, if we’re not careful, their childhood will pass before our eyes.

This precious time to talk and teach children about life, faith, and family doesn’t have to be elaborate. Focus solely on your child for small pockets of time each day.  Start with 10 minutes at a time and use a timer to set the boundary.

While it may mean the dishes will have to go untouched for a few minutes, the time spent investing in your child is priceless.  (I’m learning this lesson first hand, too!)

Plan parent-child dates

Going on parent-child dates is a fabulous way to spend quality time with children and sets a lifelong standard of trust, importance, and openness.

Do you need some ideas on how to connect with your family?  Here’s some practical and easy ideas to help you plan for special time with your children.

Resources for family fun

A Year of Parent-Child Dates- Let’s Explore

20 Awesome Date Night Ideas with Kids- Simply Kierste

Family Conversation Cards- Faith Along the Way

The Best Parent & Child Date Night Ideas- Beauty Through Imperfection

20 FUN Family Games & Activities- Faith Along the Way

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About Sarah Ann

Welcome to Faith Along the Way! I am a redeemed child of God and perfectly imperfect in every area of my life. Wife to Hubs, we've battled the storms of Cancer, infertility, adoption & Autism together the past 10 years and praise God for his continued guidance. I hope you'll join us on this journey through life as we trust God with faith along the way.

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    ANDI July 8, 2015 (7:35 am)

    if a parent doesn’t have quality time with his or her child…
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    Lindsey Smallwood July 8, 2015 (10:12 am)

    So so true. I have a tendency to ignore my kids so I can get things done, forgetting that raising them is the most important thing I do!!
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      Sarah Ann July 8, 2015 (10:12 pm)

      Me too, Lindsey! It’s so nice to hear that I’m not alone.

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    Erin July 8, 2015 (11:58 am)

    Yes, I am guilty of too often saying “just a minute” or even worse…saying “yes, I see” when I’m not even looking, all because I’m busy getting dinner ready. It’s those times when I do stop for a moment and give my kids the attention they deserve that makes me prouder of myself. Thanks for sharing.

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      Sarah Ann July 8, 2015 (10:11 pm)

      I am the same way about, “I see you”! It’s easy to brush them off, but being more intentional has reminded me to stop and actually look at him when I can. We are also praying about/working through boundaries with him, reminding him that he can’t always be the center of attention. It’s a slippery slope!

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    Maria Hass July 8, 2015 (12:05 pm)

    Sooo true! It’s the reason why I know about video games, DC Comics, and pokemon. I don’t want to connect with my child only on my terms. So I listen to them and ask them questions. I love your point!
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      Sarah Ann July 8, 2015 (10:09 pm)

      Absolutely! I am the same way! I try to let him lead our time together and he gets to pick (within reason) what we do together.

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    Brandi @ penguinsinpink.com July 9, 2015 (7:41 pm)

    Connecting with our children is so important. I have been where you have been. I now make it a point to spend time with my children and be involved in their lives. Which is why I know everything about My Little Pony, Doc McStuffins and Sofia the First. Meeting them on their terms builds a stronger relationship.
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      Sarah Ann July 9, 2015 (9:32 pm)

      I couldn’t agree more, Brandi! It’s easy to start with their interests, and I find that we connect easily in other areas once I made the effort, first. 🙂

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    Leslie July 10, 2015 (8:13 am)

    I love how you applied to the story of Mary and Martha to raising our kids. Insightful!
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      Sarah Ann July 10, 2015 (1:31 pm)

      Thank you, Leslie! I am SO thankful for grace and the chance to change my motherhood habits!

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    Shelly July 11, 2015 (9:43 am)

    Thanks for the reminder! I’m such a Martha so many times. I definitely need to do better about setting aside individual tim with my kids.
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      Sarah Ann July 11, 2015 (2:30 pm)

      I’m a Martha at heart, too, but I am learning to be more open, like Mary, and to put others first.

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    Caitlin July 11, 2015 (10:22 am)

    Your post is beautiful and so very true! I like that you included the story of Mary and Martha! Keep up the great work!! 🙂

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      Sarah Ann July 11, 2015 (2:30 pm)

      Thank you for your encouragement! I’m so flattered! 🙂

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    Anna Joy July 11, 2015 (4:21 pm)

    So convicting, Sarah Ann. Thanks for sharing and for the great reminder.

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      Sarah Ann July 12, 2015 (2:34 pm)

      Thank you, Anna! I needed that reminder, too!

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    Kara July 12, 2015 (10:37 am)

    I have four boys, two with Autism and one with ADHD & Autism. I also homeschool. I also have recently been diagnosed with Multiple Sclerosis. I can relate to the worn thin nerves. I am going to schedule one – on-one time with each of my boys this week, something I’ve been wanting to do for a while, even if it means being in more pain or more exhausted or housework being left for another time. Your article was just the encouragement I so desperately needed. God Bless.

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      Sarah Ann July 12, 2015 (2:34 pm)

      Kara,

      God bless you! You sound like an amazing mom and I’ll be praying for your time with them. I have one child with Autism and another severe attention issues. Stay strong, my friend! God will walk beside you every step of your journey!

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    Michelle July 13, 2015 (9:45 pm)

    I am a big advocate for having dates one-on-one with your children. Mine are grown and we made it a priority to do it regularly with all three girls. They still remember these times. Now we do it with our grandchildren. Glad to see you know the importance of it early in their years. From Titus 2 linkup. Would love for you to share this on my Tuesday Talk beginning at 8:00 a.m. tomorrow.

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      Sarah Ann July 16, 2015 (6:38 am)

      I love that you still do dates with your adult children! It’s so important and now that I’m grown, I’m amazed at how much I still want to be around my parents. 🙂

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    Holly Brown July 15, 2015 (12:12 am)

    I just love your series and beautiful ideas! Thanks for sharing this with us at Grace & Truth, friend!!
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      Sarah Ann July 16, 2015 (6:37 am)

      Thank you, sweet friend! I appreciate the encouragement.

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    Kelsey Ferguson July 15, 2015 (2:14 pm)

    I have a son just like that! “Play with me, Momma. Play with me, Momma!” All day long. . . We are going through a transitional season, where we are in the midst of moving and our living with my parents until we close on our house. I know he is feeling the changes, and he needs to be reminded that I’m not going anywhere. On Friday, we are taking him to see the Minions movie at the drive-in! He has no idea. It will be such a fun surprise! 🙂 Thank you so much for this reminder and ideas!
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      Sarah Ann July 16, 2015 (6:36 am)

      I understand, Kelsey! It can be so hard to juggle that personality among the other responsibilities we have, yet I am learning to stop what I am doing more to play and see what he is doing. But I’m also working on teaching him boundaries and the proper time to interrupt. It’s a slippery slope. Best wishes to you and your family on your transition time.

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    robbie @ use resources wisely July 29, 2015 (8:51 am)

    I needed this reminder to play more! Thank you! 🙂
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      Sarah Ann August 12, 2015 (11:12 am)

      Me too! I always need to remember to put myself as a priority!